From Loneliness to Acceptance

By Tonya Swan
Certified Life Between Lives® Facilitator, USA

Loneliness seems to be the experience of a human, an unconscious longing for deeper connections. From the soul’s perspective, once in the afterlife we are never alone as souls exist in oneness, connected with the vast fabric of the spiritual realm with their guides, their soul groups and and all the loving beings that reside in it. However, in the human form, veiled with forgetfulness of our true nature, we tend to forget our essence, and many souls experience a sense of isolation, yearning for a connection they cannot always consciously define.

We all know and sense that as souls we belong to soul groups-cluster of beings who incarnate together across lifetimes to learn, grow with and support one another. Some of these souls come into our lives as our family, friends, co-workers, and even fleeting encounters that give real strong energetic and soulful jolts to us (and our lives) and that leave a deep influence on us.

However, not all souls or soul mates meet in every lifetime. Sometimes a soul chooses deliberately a path of solitude where she incarnates without her soul group or cluster, and it may be so she can focus on inner growth, independence, or other themes that are specific to this soul. Sometimes a soul incarnates at a different time as her soul group or is ‘in-between’ soul groups and is incarnating with the purpose of experiencing life with themes that her soul groups are not (yet) exploring. This can lead to an experience of underlying sense of loneliness during the lifetime where a soul subconsciously remembers the unity it once shared.

Some souls are naturally more solitary as they choose to take on independent journeys, in either this world or other planets, with the intent to gain wisdom in insolation or they may have advanced beyond the need of constant companionship.

I remember a soul of a regressed client whose work in this lifetime was photography of beautiful natural sights and she spent many days alone in nature. Her regression revealed an old soul, who has spent many lifetimes in solitude to learn stillness, intuitive reflection and mastery of deeper meditative states. Her past lifetime was spent in meditation, in a high mountain cave, where she meditated and occasionally visited a nearby monastery to share her gift of healing with the monks and people who would come to visit with her. She told me that while many lifetime’s ago, she was very group-oriented; she had come to a point in evolution where she took a different direction from her group. While they continued incarnating together, walking through relational lessons, she seemed to have learned her lessons so fast that soon she evolved past them. She became interested in the art of healing and later in consequent lives in the solitude, she began communicating with the spirit world and helping others in their life and challenges. It seemed, as her spirit guide explained, that she was a much-evolved soul on her path to become a spirit guide herself. ‘She needs solitude as space for growth’, was the explanation.

She had come to realize, that ultimately, loneliness from souls’ perspective is an illusion of the physical experience. ‘The more I connected with the spirit world the less I could feel lonely and the more connected on the human plane, the more I would seek solitude. I need silence from the world- in that profound silence my deep connection to the spirit world comes to life’, she concluded.

This session opened my eyes: the deeper we connect with our inner self, our spirit guides, our intuitive wisdom, the higher realms, and loving divine Presence, the more we dissolve this illusion of separateness and aloneness.  In this process, we experience that we are always, even in solitude, greatly surrounded by love, guidance and the presence of those who walk with us.  Both seen and unseen, we have great company. In solitude, we become aware of it. We recognise that in deep silence exists the voice of wisdom and that undeniably we are never alone or left unattended. In that realisation lies the profound liberation from sense of loneliness.♥

Tonya Swan is an LBL Facilitator in Washington, USA and sees clients in-person and online worldwide

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