The LBL: An Agent for Change
By Gayle Barklie
Certified Life Between Lives® Facilitator, USA
You may not know what draws you to a Life Between Lives (LBL) session at first: a persistent pattern, a painful relationship, a longing that refuses to quiet. Perhaps it’s a moment of collapse or of clarity, a sense that something deeper is calling you to remember who you are beneath the noise and the roles you’ve taken on.
In this space between question and answer, the LBL journey begins.
LBL, or Life Between Lives, is far more than a regression technique or a guided meditation. It is a soul retrieval across time, a spiraling return through the layers of selfhood until you meet the presence you’ve always been: eternal, aware, in dialogue with the Divine.
This isn’t a single story. It’s a shared archetypal movement. A spiral path taken by hundreds, maybe thousands, of seekers. The patterns change, the faces change, but the feeling of the LBL space — the essence of its impact — remains consistent. It rearranges something foundational. It initiates change.
And the change often begins in the most ordinary of places.
From Present Symptoms to Ancient Roots
LBL sessions rarely start with spiritual revelations. They begin where your life is aching.
A career that feels like a cage. A love you can’t hold onto. An anxiety that won’t explain itself. The way you keep attracting people who mirror a parent you swore you’d never become. The sharp, reoccurring edges of grief, self-doubt, resentment, and confusion.
You come in with these questions, wrapped in present-time urgency. But the LBL process doesn’t stay there long. It begins to pull gently, first back into childhood, where many of your current dynamics took root. Not for blame, but for understanding.
Then it often slides further into your ancestral lineage. Emotional patterns that aren’t quite yours. A grandmother’s abandonment wound that echoes in your own. A father’s silence born from generations of men not being allowed to feel.
You begin to see how what you carry is both yours and not yours, a soul’s agreement to transmute what couldn’t be healed before.
One client came in with chronic knee pain and a deep fear of moving forward in life. Her session traced this to a family lineage where women were punished for independence, and even further, to a past life where she was executed for trying to escape an arranged marriage.
From there, the trail continues to wind.
Crossing the Veil: Past Lives and Patterns of Becoming
The door opens wider. Suddenly, you find yourself in another lifetime, not metaphorically, but vividly and viscerally. You know the clothes against your skin. You feel the heartbreak, or the betrayal, or the quiet peace of a different time, a different self.
And yet, it is still you.
Maybe you’re a farmer watching your village burn. A high priestess silenced for speaking prophecy. A soldier leaving behind a child you never knew. These aren’t fantasies. They are emotional truths encoded in your energetic field, unfinished stories whispering through your nervous system, still playing out in your present-day life.
And as you witness them, something begins to loosen. A pattern reveals itself. You begin to see that your struggles are not random, but rhythmic, part of a greater karmic tide.
In one session, a woman struggling with constant guilt saw herself as a doctor during the plague who had to choose which patients to save. Her soul was still carrying a self-punishing imprint from that lifetime, explaining why, in this life, she couldn’t say no without drowning in shame.
So the LBL process keeps going.
The Between: Home of the Soul Collective
Eventually, you arrive at the threshold. This is the life between lives itself.
Time becomes less relevant here. You are no longer in the narrative of one life but in the spacious awareness of the eternal being you truly are, the one who chooses, returns, learns, and grows.
You are met by beings who know you. Often called guides or members of your Soul Collective. They don’t judge you. They mirror you. They hold up the luminous pattern of who you’ve been becoming across lifetimes, not just in terms of what you’ve done but what you’ve learned.
Here, you may remember why you chose this lifetime.
A man, tormented by loneliness and romantic rejection, saw clearly in the LBL space that he had chosen a lifetime of solitude to develop inner stability. This served as a balancing response to three previous lifetimes spent in co-dependent roles.
You may revisit the moment before this incarnation began, a place where you examined the lessons your soul longed to embody. Courage. Compassion. Self-trust. Balance. Power without harm. Love without loss. Or the long, layered journey of learning how to receive.
From this vantage point, your life begins to look different. That betrayal? A catalyst.
That chronic illness? A conversation.
That parent-child dynamic? A soul agreement made with love, even if it played out as pain.
And those you’ve struggled with the most? Often the very beings who sat with you before birth, agreeing to challenge you so that you might wake up to your deepest truth.
Reclaiming the Incarnational Map
In the LBL space, you’re shown the map — your unique Pathway of Becoming. Not a rigid plan but a dynamic, living architecture of intentions and possibilities. Some roads are pre-agreed upon. Others are open to free will and choice.
A woman battling imposter syndrome discovered she had lived lifetimes as a spiritual leader, healer, and teacher. But she had been silenced or persecuted each time. Her current hesitation was a soul memory of consequences, not lack of ability.
You begin to recognize that while your human self often feels trapped or reactive, your soul self is always in motion, curving gently toward learning, integration, and love.
And perhaps most powerfully, you begin to see where you still have choice. The karmic loops don’t bind you. They await your conscious engagement.
You don’t have to keep reliving the abandonment, the people-pleasing, or the sacrifice of your truth. When you remember that you chose to work on these lessons, and that you are not alone in them, something shifts.
Responsibility no longer feels like blame. It feels like liberation.
The Spiritual Alchemy of Insight
One of the greatest misconceptions about LBL work is that it’s about having answers. More often, it’s about finding the right questions — the ones that rearrange your inner landscape.
“Why did I choose this path?” “What am I still resisting?” “How have I grown?”
“Who are the souls journeying with me, and why did we make these agreements?”
These aren’t academic inquiries. They are soul-level sparks, the beginning of transformation through awareness.
A client burdened by sibling rivalry saw that their sibling was actually a long-time soul ally. This soul had played the “antagonist” role in multiple lifetimes to help them develop leadership and self-trust.
The session itself becomes a container for alchemy. Not just remembering, but metabolizing. Re-seeing your life through a wider lens, where pain can become purpose and grief can reveal devotion.
That’s the agent of change. Not the facts of the past, but the meaning you uncover in the present.
Integration: Where the Work Becomes Life
The LBL session doesn’t end when you open your eyes. In fact, that’s when the real integration begins. You carry the echoes of what you’ve seen. The embrace of a guide who reminded you of your worth.
The image of a lifetime where you stood in your truth without apology. The feeling of peace that came when you finally forgave someone, or yourself.
These fragments become anchors. They shape your choices differently.
Maybe you speak your needs more clearly. Maybe you leave a relationship that no longer honors your growth. Maybe you choose to stay, but with a new boundary, a new softness, a new clarity.
The shifts aren’t always seismic. Sometimes they’re subtle. But you begin to orient differently, no longer from fear or reactivity, but from alignment with the deeper self you remembered in the LBL space.
And as you live into that self, the transformation continues.
When Change Takes Time
Not every LBL session leads to immediate transformation. Sometimes what arises is confusing or incomplete. Sometimes the soul brings forward what you’re ready for, not necessarily what you want to see.
That, too, is part of the process.
A man once dismissed his most profound session by laughing and saying, “Well, that wasn’t very important.” He had just re-experienced a Holocaust lifetime where he’d survived by betraying others. This explained his present-day difficulty in trusting himself or letting others in.
The work often unfolds in waves: dreams, synchronicities, relationships shifting, internal resistances loosening. You may find yourself revisiting the session months later, suddenly understanding what once felt opaque, as this man did.
One client arrived with unexplained chest pain that doctors couldn’t diagnose. In the session, they found themselves as a young child in a past life, separated from their mother during a migration. The pain disappeared after they released the soul memory of not being able to say goodbye.
Change may come slowly. But it comes.
Final Reflections: Trusting the Soul’s Design
The LBL process is not a fix. It’s not a bypass. It’s not a guarantee that your life will become smooth or struggle-free.
It is an invitation.
To trust that your life has meaning.
To remember that you are more than the story you’ve been told.
To realize that even the hardest chapters are part of a larger intelligence, one that you, in collaboration with your Soul Collective and the loving presence of your guides, helped design.
And that means: you also have the power to rewrite it.
To stop reacting and start responding. To see through karmic fog into clarity. To offer compassion to your own process. To become, slowly, messily, gloriously, the version of yourself your soul has been crafting across lifetimes.
You are not broken.
You are becoming.
And the LBL is simply the mirror that shows you what you’ve always been reaching for, and who you already are. ♥
Gayle Barklie MFC, CHT, LBL is a transpersonal psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, art therapist, animal communicator, and visual artist in private practice since 1991. Her work includes Life Between Lives® and Past Life Regression, trauma resolution, grief and loss support, spiritual emergence, relationship repair and conscious uncoupling, creative block release, and realignment with core purpose and inner guidance.
Based in Kula, Hawaiʻi, she offers in-person sessions on Maui and Oʻahu, plus private intensives and retreats at select international locations, and high-touch online work worldwide for English-speaking clients.
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